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The Search for Significance

Posted on March 6, 2018 at 4:00 PM Comments comments (0)

All of us have this innate desire for significance. We want to be deeply known and deeply loved. We want to know that the world is a better place because of our life and our impact. One of the biggest concerns in clients seeking therapy, according to Irvin Yalom, is trying to find meaning in life. This search results from asking the question, “Does my life matter? Do I matter?” Often, we go through seasons where we feel in a rut and feel that what we are devoting our lives to is not producing the results we had hoped for. Parents are pouring into their kids, devoting time, energy, and emotional investment, with little immediate results and for an ultimate end where the kids leave the nest and venture out on their own with often little thought of their parent’s sacrifices. Men and women in the work place work for years and years to gain success or a certain level of income and never feel that satisfying feeling that they have “made it”. The chase for success and recognition is an endless chase, leaving many wondering what kind of difference they even make in their lives at work. Young professionals are fresh out of college, starting careers they have prepared for their whole lives, often realizing it isn’t what they thought it would be and this sought-after career still leaves them wanting. Searching and searching, we all have moments, days, years, when we are confronted with the gripping terror: What if we have waisted our lives? What if nothing we are doing is making any difference in the world?

I was struck by something the other day while studying about Jesus’ 12 disciples. At home, the kids and I are trying to memorize different things in scripture and we recently were working on the 12 disciples of Jesus. We found a song on YouTube that went through each name in a catchy tune. The last disciple mentioned was Bartholomew. It just hit me, listening to that song the other day: who the heck is Bartholomew? Like, is there anything in scripture about him at all besides his calling? What did he do? What did he say? What ministry was he a part of after Jesus’ death? None of this info is recorded in the Bible! There were only 12 disciples. It seems like it would make good sense for God, in his divine sovereignty, to give us a glimpse into each one, but he doesn’t. It almost seems like Bartholomew was an insignificant disciple. He didn’t matter much. His contribution to society was not that great.

I think each one of us desires to be seen as a Paul or Peter in the Bible. One of the ones who helped write the New Testament; whose faith stories and missionary journeys are recorded. We like those guys. We want our lives to hold that kind of significance. But what if God sees us more like Bartholomews? Our significance doesn’t come from our recorded achievements or our recognized accolades. Our significance comes from Jesus choosing us as one of His very own. Those who belong in Christ are chosen! We are hand-picked to carry out God’s redemptive plan in our spheres of influence. Our significance is tied to Him; to His choosing of us and to His plan for our lives. Our lives have purpose and significance because He says they do. Because we are made in His image and reflect His character to the world.

So, parents who are struggling, remember He has predestined you to love on those babies and reflect His character as you do it. Workers who feel that their careers are not satisfying, remember He has predestined you to work for His glory so that He may be seen in and through you as you engage with those in your offices. Young adults, remember He who called you is faithful, and He has called you to give Him glory wherever you land in life.

Thankfully, our significance has little to do with us. It has little to do with our achievements or lack of achievements. It has everything to do with a God who chose us, predestined us for adoption to Himself as sons through Jesus Christ, and uses us to spread His love, patience, kindness, and gentleness to the world around us.

by Marisa Cockrell, Student Intern, Dallas Theological Seminary

Honor Vessels

Posted on March 6, 2017 at 3:00 PM Comments comments (0)

Being caregivers and parents of special needs children can bring some situation in life that can bring us down. Judgments and negative comments towards our parenting can bring sadness and conflict towards others, because the thought of “if they were in my shoes” comes to mind and we cannot help but feel excluded. Nonetheless it is important to always reflect the love of Jesus and mercy to others. 2 Timothy talks about being Honor Vessels and how we must be careful on what we put into our souls and minds; our water must be clear and clean and let God take over our struggles.

Where do we go in times of Crisis?

Posted on February 10, 2017 at 2:10 AM Comments comments (0)

The Lord is my light and my salvation;

whom shall I fear?

The Lord is the strength of my life;

of whom shall I be afraid?

Psalms 27:1

Crisis is an unstable event that can be of influence in our behavior and consequently comes and takes away our peace. Being parents of special needs children or caregivers of others could bring for times to times moments of crisis, where emotions can overwhelm the situation even more. Emotions such as frustration, fear, sadness, desperation and uncertainness; the enemy will take advantage of each emotion and bring doubts to our hearts, asking ourselves if God is still with us. God is our redeemer and our counselor in times of crisis; remembering that we can hide in Him, finding protection, love, compassion and mercy at His feet. In those moments of crisis, God is still in control and confiding in Him will be our comfort.

Food for Thought

Posted on February 6, 2017 at 1:20 AM Comments comments (0)

The Enemy is Fear When we are afraid, we tend to shut ourselves down. We don’t reach out to others, we don’t communicate our real feelings, and the resulting isolation is painful.

Then what do we do? Compulsive overeating, or any disordered eating for that matter is often an attempt to fight fear with food. We stuff down our anxieties and hope that if we bury them deep enough they will disappear forever. Unfortunately, overeating does not make the fear or pain go away. What it does do is diminish our self-esteem. And the further we isolate and withdraw ourselves, the more our fears increase.

There is a way out of this vicious cycle; the way out is through connecting with others and loving ourselves well. When we admit to God and to another fellow “journeywoman” that we are struggling we are given just what we need for that moment, for that day. God will show us how to fight fear with the weapon of love.

As we trust that God can handle our “food problem,” we can take new risks by truly loving those around us as well as loving ourselves. Unconditionally, God will give us the ability to love ourselves exactly as we are right now and accept and love life as it presents itself each moment. When we are filled with love, we are not afraid and we don’t need excess food. Father, show each of us how to be filled with the love that conquers fear, Amen.

What is my personality during stress?

Posted on February 6, 2017 at 1:20 AM Comments comments (0)

“Stress is not what happens to us. It is our respond to what happens. And response is something we can choose”

Being Caregivers and in constant demand of our time, stress is something that will come very easily into our lives; this will not only rob us from our peace, but it will lead us to take our eyes from Christ.

During stress, people tend to have negative talk to in their minds or to themselves and usually 4 personalities come up.

*The worry person is surrounded by anxiety.

*The critic person emphasizes the self-esteem.

*The victim person will fall into depression.

*The perfectionist person will endure chronic stress and burnout.

Nonetheless it is important to remember that Christ is our rock and our pennant in troubled times. If we decide to lead emotions, stress and thoughts that the enemy brings, we are not letting God take over and be glorified in the situation, no matter how stressful it is.

Psalms 73:26 “My body and my heart may grow weak, but God is the strength of my heart and all I need forever”